I'm irritated by all these political ads. I'm not a political person, it actually bores me to tears. The same ads run over and over and over again. The debates always interrupt primetime TV viewing. In Ohio, a man named Rich Iott is running for Congress and a photo of him has surfaced wearing a German military uniform. In his spare time, he re-enacts wars/battles. Now the media is turning this into him being a Nazi, what a shame that this photo came out and now we all know his secret, blah. blah. blah. When I first saw this photo, I was a bit shocked but once I read the story (here is just one article floating around the web) I understood better. To me, he's simply wearing a costume doing a job to educate the public about certain wars/battles. It would be like me wearing a mermaid costume. I'm not a mermaid in real-life, so there really isn't anything press worthy about that in my book.
I was saddened to learn that David Arquette and Courtney Cox have separated. I always thought they looked like a fun, easy going couple. I did think the pairing was odd at first, but it looked like they made it work. I was gunning for them and hoping they wouldn't be one of those 3 week married Hollywood couples.
I had a great conversation with my Mom the other day about needing girlfriends and how it took me a really long time to realize that that is SO important. I always figured once I had kids, that was my life. Everything else needed to be put on the back burner and hopefully it would be there when the kids were grown. I realize now that that's a really unhealthy way to think. I'm so glad I've got a great, fun group of friends to pal around with, talk with, and lean on when need be. I've still kept one thing on the back burner though and I'm feeling pulled as to how bring it to the front once again. Jason has been put on the back burner for far too long, we've both changed dramatically in the last year with him working 11 hours away. We were pretty much single people hoping to be able to pick up where we left off. I grew up a lot having to run the household by myself, make sure the kids were where they needed to be, keep everything running smoothly and efficiently. I learned to do everything by myself and I think I did a darn good job of it. I never knew I had that in me. With him being gone so much, conversations were nightly on the phone. Nothing important, just filling each other in on the days happenings. I learned to talk more to the people around me than my husband. I didn't want to burden him and make him worry anymore than he already was. It was hard on all of us.
Now that he's working back at home, I'm feeling pulled to make sure I find time for him as well. I must say that I'm failing at that miserably. At the end of the day, I'm so tired I go to bed when the kids do. On the weekends, he heads to the neighbors' and I tend to the house and the kids. I've gone out with the girls, started bowling, and still run the kids where they need to be. I hate being pulled in many directions and failing especially upsets me. Hopefully it will just take a bit more time to get used to and then everything will be back to the way it was before.
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HUGS!! Being a mom, a wife and a friend is hard. The way you feel is completely normal.
My friends and I were just talking about all of these issues this morning. You are not alone.
You're definitely not alone. Maybe you could try to have that girl that watched the kids come over more. I know it's hard, but maybe try once a month at least for now. Even if it's during the day, so you're not so tired :) I'm sure the kids will love having her play with them, and it will do wonders for your relationship. It's important to do family things, but mom and dad need their time too.
On a brighter note, I'm really glad you've found such a great group of friends that you can have adult fun and family fun with. That's awesome!
Your post from your Minute To Win It party looked so fun. I'd like to try that sometime.
Maybe your Mom could take the kids and you and Jason could leave for the weekend. Your Mom would even stay at your house, take care of Lexi, run your kids around. You should take advantage of your Mom. I never could take advantage of my Mom like that and it hurt my marriage.....so use your MOM, she would love it.
Even better idea, Robin! Jess, listen to her, she is wise. I wish my mom could hang out with my kids more often.
Always, always make time for just you and Jason. He will be there long after the kids find their own lives and you and Jason have to have yours. Use all your resources, you sure won't have trouble finding someone to watch your kids once in awhile. They are awesome kids. Aunt Judy
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